Sunday 27 June 2021

Lying is easy

 

Pathological liars often convince themselves of their lies, so they are believed when they inevitably lie. When I was about 8 years old, I wanted to play with a stuffed animal that I believed was my sister's. My sister was always very possessive, so I went and just took the stuffed animal out of her bag of stuffed animals. She of course found out and was trying to take it from me, so we went to get my mom. At that moment I knew that if I finally wanted to play with this stuffed animal, I would have to convince my mother that it was mine. It had been years of my sister convincing my mom that a lot of my toys were hers, so I thought it was my turn. I made myself believe that the stuffed animal was mine. I first convinced myself that it was mine, then I proceeded to plead a lie so I could play with it. In the end, it had turned out that it was not mine nor my sisters. It was in fact a stuffed animal from my mother’s childhood, and in the end, she took it from both of us.

It always made me upset that my sister would lie and continue to get away with it time and time again, but when I tried it was an obvious lie which I could have never know, as it was with my sister's stuffed animals. As I have gotten older, I have realized that my sister genuinely believed herself, to tell the truth in every one of those situations. She wanted those toys so bad that she made herself believe with everything in her, that those toys were hers. Even though the fact was that they were not. This mindset has translated into her adulthood. She often convinces herself that certain situations did not happen the way that they did. Luckily as time goes on, she is getting better. No more “this is just the way I am”. Instead, she is starting to work on her flaws. I would like to think I had something to do with that, with my constant nagging, but who knows what finally clicked, for her to realize that she needed to improve.

So, you see, the human mind is easily manipulated. It only took me a few seconds to convince myself a stuffed animal (that I knew was someone else’s) was in fact mine. And in my sister's head, she was not doing anything wrong because she had convinced herself prior that those toys were hers.